I mean that phrase not in the sense of immediate enjoyment and uncertainty about the future, but to acknowledge that in a very real way, every day counts and we must live it, even while we make plans and maintain a positive outlook.
Some parents raising families tend to defer self-fulfillment beyond the shared realities of their partners and children. Few nuclear families with children and limited resources thrive emotionally without one parent having to compromise inequitably or change career path.
And though we are in the twenty-first century, it's usually women who end up making the adjustment. The decision is likely unacknowledged, and life proceeds as though the choice was freely made, while the children grow up, and she lives a life postponed.
But every day counts in women's lives. Most women I know are always busy looking after others, often to the detriment of themselves. Sieze the day. Make certain, every day, to do something just for you.
Commented by email:
"I identify strongly with what you have shared here. The mothers and grandmothers are normally those who sacrifice themselves . . . postpone decisions that would make their own lives, if not better, perhaps a bit easier. I have come to believe this unacknowledged decision to do so many things for others,while we quietly wait our turn, leads to strength of character, great patience, and compassion for those who find it too challenging to arrest their own need for immediate gratification. Someone shared with me recently that we are actively, moment-to-moment, co-creating karma when we take good care of others, or when we relinquish our responsibilities.
Enjoyed visiting your Website. Look forward to more blogs."
Thank you L, for blogging in and sharing
